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Are
you a workaholic?
You might as well face it -- youre addicted to work. Could
your workaholism be hurting you?
For
workaholics, the day of rest never comes. There is always one more
email to read, one more phone call to take, one more critically
important trip to the office that cant wait until Monday.
Weekends?
Holidays? Family? As the uber-workaholic Ebenezer Scrooge put it,
Bah, humbug!
It
used to be that I never went on vacation without my laptop and a
couple of beepers, says George Giokas, who describes himself
as a reformed workaholic. When he was starting his company,
StaffWriters Plus, in the pre-BlackBerry mid-1990s, Giokas spent
more than a few late nights and nearly every Saturday at the office,
he tells WebMD.
As
he confessed to the online edition of Business Week in 1999, Ive
struggled with the weekend issue many times, trying to figure out
why I absolutely have to work then. It must be ingrained in me to
the point of being a kind of addiction -- like going to the health
club every day. If I miss one day, I feel awful.
But
Giokas has since learned that the problems that pop up when hes
away from the office will still be there when he gets back, and
that what happens in the office stays in the office.
Im
not the sort of person to bring home problems, he says, and
I dont dwell on issues. I get a pretty good nights sleep.
Workaholism:
A life out of balance
Not
every workaholic, however, is able to achieve the balance that Giokas
has found.
Justin
Blanton, who practices law in Californias Silicon Valley,
tells WebMD that he is a workaholic and that the problem has only
gotten worse in the four years since he wrote the following on his
blog: Whether Im reading a Harry Potter book on my PDA
while waiting in the deli line, checking email on my phone as soon
as my date makes for the ladies room, or heading back to my computer
each commercial break (no TiVo
yet) -- Im always checking
something.
Its
gotten worse in the sense that it hasnt let up at all, and
I feel more compelled to be busy, Blanton says today.
In
a culture that prizes work ethic, overachievement, and financial
success -- where gazillionaires such as Warren Buffett and Bill
Gates are household names, and Donald Trump has his own television
show -- people who are addicted to working are seen by outsiders
as smart, ambitious, and entrepreneurial.
The
system is almost built to reinforce workaholics, says Simon
A. Rego, PsyD, associate director of psychology training at Montefiore
Medical Centre in New York City. Those are the people who
end up getting positive job evaluations, get opportunities for promotion,
and see themselves getting bonuses or raises. Its almost like
the system has a built-in model to give them free hits of what theyre
addicted to.
Even
when out of the office, workaholics can satisfy their cravings with
cell phones, PDAs, laptops, and WiFi, which ensure that work need
never be out of reach.
But
blaming technology for workaholism is like blaming the supermarket
for food addiction or the corner liquor store for alcoholism, says
Bryan E. Robinson, PhD, author of Chained to the Desk: A Guidebook
for Workaholics, Their Partners and Children, and the Clinicians
Who Treat Them.
Robinson
and other clinicians who treat patients for work-associated stress
say that working hard and having easy access to work does not automatically
make someone a workaholic.
Its
important to understand the context, says Edmund Neuhaus,
PhD, director of the Behavioral Health Partial Hospital Program
at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Mass. If youre working
to the exclusion of your family, your marriage, other relationships,
and your life is out of balance, or your physical health is out
of balance -- when work takes an exclusive priority to everything
else, thats the more extreme end of the spectrum where it
becomes a problem, Neuhaus tells WebMD.
The
preoccupation with work is really at the core of what workaholism
is, says Robinson, professor emeritus at the University of
North Carolina, Charlotte, and a psychotherapist in private practice
in Asheville, N.C. I always say that the difference between
someone whos a true workaholic and someone whos just
a hard worker is that the workaholic is on the ski slopes dreaming
about being back at work, and the hard worker is in the office dreaming
about being on the ski slope.
Workaholism
is remarkably similar to alcoholism in some ways. Just as an alcoholic
will hide bottles around the house and drink furtively, for example,
workaholics may try to sneak in work when they think no one is looking.
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